Welcome, mothers. I want to begin by being honest with you: what I offer is not the same as the advice you may have heard from other coaches, counselors, or advocates. My journey through the custody system changed me in ways I never expected. There came a point when I realized that custody was sold to my former spouse. Things that never seemed to add up, suddenly made painful sense. That realization became the beginning of healing for me.
Then in 2020 someone talked about No Touch Torture (NTT). Learning about NTT and having a mental health degree and working in the field for several years, I was able to understand the psychological torture tactics used against me because they sold my former spouse custody. Once I started researching the patterns, the tactics, and the deeper realities behind what I had lived through, the understanding completed my healing.
Like so many noncustodial mothers, my story involved
domestic violence, separation from my children, and the deep pain of being
pushed into the shadows of their lives. That is why I say, with all sincerity,
that I understand what you may be going through. This is not academic for me.
It is personal. It has been personal since my divorce in 1999, and for decades
I have carried both the grief of that experience and the determination to make
something meaningful out of it. That is also why I chose to earn a degree in
Human Services. I wanted my pain to become purpose. I wanted to use what I had
lived through to help other parents trying to survive a system that often feels
impossible to navigate.
Because of that experience, I do not simply repeat the same
guidance that is often given in these situations. My perspective was shaped by
hard years, painful lessons, and a search for truth that changed how I see the
family court system. The resources I have created, including my eBooks and
downloadable tools, are meant to offer support in a practical and affordable
way. My goal is to help mothers feel less alone, more informed, and better
prepared for what they may be facing.
Over the years, I have watched new mothers enter this fight
with the same hope, fear, and desperation I once carried. I see them pouring
everything they have into strategies that I know, from experience, may not lead
where they hope. And that is one of the hardest parts for me. When you have
lived this long enough, you start to recognize the patterns. You want to reach
back, take another mother by the hand, and spare her some of the heartbreak.
That desire to help, to warn, and to share what I have learned is at the center
of everything I do.
What do my clients, friends and colleague say about me:
"What a breath of fresh air!"
"No one is talking about this and they need to know!"
"You give so much information in such little bit of time."
"You work with autistic kids; you must have a lot of patience."
Not only do I help moms understand family court torture, but I help therapist understand as well. If you have a therapist, you believe needs to know my information, just send them to this blog to learn more.
Below, you can learn more about my story, explore resources, and find support designed with mothers like you in mind.
Here you can find my eBooks, downloadable, and tools created
for mothers. My work experience can be downloaded and if you don’t know where
or what to do with your case to keep fighting for your kids, you can book a
consultation with me there. Have questions ready and something to take notes
on. Parents say they learn so much from me in such a little bit of time.
For 17 years, I represented myself in family court. I did not have a college education when I began—just a deep determination not to give up on my children. Along the way, I learned something that surprised me: much of what people are told about representing themselves is designed to make the process feel more intimidating than it really is. Little by little, I taught myself how to navigate the paperwork, find information, and keep moving forward. That journey is what inspired me to create resources that make the documentation process feel less overwhelming for other parents. Through my website, I share editable documents, case law, and practical information that can help you understand your next steps. I also created the app as another tool to make the process easier, allowing you to draft a motion on your phone and send it to email it to yourself or text the information on your phone. This makes attorneys absolute after a divorce. EditableApp
I am not an attorney, and I do not
provide legal advice, but I do help parents with the documentation process and
with finding tools that can make self-representation feel more possible.
When my former spouse was trying to present himself as the
“good dad” so the children would want to live with him, I was left carrying a
heartbreak that is difficult to put into words. My sons were only 8 and 12, and
I struggled with how to explain what was happening without placing a burden on
their young hearts. How do you tell a child that a parent may love them, while
also manipulating them to reject the other parent? That kind of confusion
creates painful mixed signals, and it can leave children feeling torn in ways
they do not yet have the language to understand.
That experience is what led me to create PlotTwist. I
discovered that movies could open the door to conversations children might
otherwise resist or not know how to begin. In many stories, there is a moment
when everything shifts—a plot twist that reveals what was really happening all
along. That became a powerful way to help parents talk with their children
about manipulation in a gentle, age-appropriate way. Using court-centered
language questions tied to a movie, a parent can guide thoughtful discussions about
what the child observed, what the characters experienced, and how manipulation
works. Over time, those conversations can help children begin to recognize
unhealthy dynamics for themselves and better understand what may be happening
in their own lives. I call the site PlotTwist!
Noncustodial Mothers Are Leading America (NALA) is a group for mothers and fathers coming together to fix the system. Please subscribe to get their emails on instructions on what to do and please share their information.
In 2011, sitting in my mother’s living room, I created this
holiday with the tag line “Let a hurting mother know you care.” The blog tells
the story on how I chose the month and day. This is where most of my article
writings go.
Every month I create a newsletter of all the things that were created to help you with the different parts of family court that I do. You can download them for free here and get the prior two months as well so you can stay up to date. Please send others that you know who are in the family court system or was to this site to learn more about the failing system.
Can you do nothing right in your child’s custody case and your ex does everything right?
Is your ex in contempt of court and does the judge do nothing about it? If you are in contempt of court, the judge will give you a fine or jail time!
Does it feel like you ex could get away with murder and the courts would shrug their shoulders and be like. Who cares, next case?
If this is you, you have clear signs the court is working with you ex and using torture on you. You can't prove any of it or even call it out because you don't even know how it is done or the law for torture. (Coming Soon)
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